Mary and Remy’s Birth Journey

Remys Birth
I am truly blessed.

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Disclaimer: If you choose to read my words please proceed with the understanding that I am a devout Roman Catholic and will be including my Faith as I continue. Be prepared for my Thanksgiving to our Lord and Savior.

Mary the Midwife gives birth to Remy

Mary the Midwife gives birth to baby #11 at Blossom Birth Center with her family, Nichelle Whitehead, Diane Bajus, Jacqueline Norris, Michelle Hottya and the amazing Blossom Team.

Posted by Blossom Birth and Wellness Center on Sunday, September 27, 2015


Preface:
Now please understand that my last 4 births were very peaceful and 3 to 6 hours start to finish. That is baby # 7 Natalie, baby #8 Sean, Baby #9 Adam and baby #10 Genevieve they were so chill. I had contractions every 8/10 minutes they were short and bearable right up until the end then the each baby decided to come out and they came out in like 2 contractions. When they came out it was easy they just birthed themselves. I didn’t know what to expect this time around. I’m 47 years old. 11th baby I had kind of figured it might be similar to before but I also focused that it would be what he (Remy) needed. I just asked Jesus, Thy Will Be done unto me, just please give me the strength. That was my prayer this pregnancy. To accept His Will, whatever He needed from me, Jesus just give me the strength. I worked through if God wanted Remy born in the hospital, I accept it, if he had a birth defect or was considered different it didn’t matter as I am so in love with Remy and I completely accepted whatever Jesus wanted for us. I worked very hard to eat healthy and clean. I just wanted him to be born healthy and alive. I understood the concerns of the medical literature being categorized as an elderly grand-multip, I declined all genetic testing and knew the increased risks of someone my age for my baby to be born still. Plus on top of that I only have one kidney. This being my 5th baby with one kidney I worked so hard to eat and stay healthy. I thought I kind of knew what to expect yet I really didn’t know what God had planned for me I just trusted.

February 23, 2014 born at 10:29pm

Once Valentine’s weekend with the full moon passed I had hoped for Remy to be born on Sunday, 2/23/14. My hope was for that day as all of my children would be home and trying to gather everyone would be so much easier on a Sunday. The week of the my due date ( the 19th) was busy at Blossom and Nichelle had text me Friday the 21st to let me know they just had two births so now I was the last February due. I was so excited. This made Sunday even more perfect allowing Diane and Nichelle to rest before Remy.

I woke up on Sunday at about 8:15 am and I had slept good. I had already decided I wasn’t going to Church as I knew it would be too much for me. Les made me my eggs and I began to feel different contractions at around 10:30 am. I knew that they were labor contractions and I began to cry tears of thankfulness. Could this really be true? Could Jesus be so good to me? To give me what I had hoped for, to birth on this day? The contractions were spaced but strong. Off and on I continued to cry tears of thankfulness. Les rubbed my feet and had made me a bowl of strawberries and pineapple. In my emotional vulnerability, I felt the need to call Nichelle to come to my home to be with me as my friend. Nichelle came and laid with me on my bed while Les rubbed my body. I tried to relax. I still wasn’t 100% convinced that “this was it” in my head as I still couldn’t believe God could be so good to me. The three of us rested and Nichelle went to check on the kids and it came to me what to do. We only had one car as Les’ car was in the shop and I wondered how we would transport everyone. So when Nichelle came back from checking on the kids I told her I think we should go to Blossom, we would have Nichelle drive Les and I and then Joseph (my oldest) would come to the house and he and Therese could bring everyone when I was getting closer. This way we could settle in and rest a bit and wait and see.

I think we got to Blossom about 12:30/1pm and I was feeling good. We listened to some music, Melissa and Nichelle were working on my big portable spa (birth pool) on the other side and Les and I rested in Peach Blossom Birth Suite. I had some pretty strong ones off and on and felt pressure.

When we were in Peach and I felt that contraction with pressure it felt like my sac bulging and applying pressure. I knew the water would break and Remy would come but I never felt the pressure of the sac like that before. See already things were different. I called Therese (#4 and 19 years old) I told her to bring everyone over. Joseph (my oldest 25 years old) was already at the house they ordered pizza but were gonna make their way over with everyone. Daniel (#3 21 years old) was on the bus heading over too. They all arrived at Blossom about 3pm.

I got into the water in Peach as the contractions were coming more intense yet still relaxed and spaced as usual. Diane arrived shortly after we did so now Diane, Nichelle, Melissa and Kashuna were present getting the birth pool warm, loving and nurturing me. My husband of course never left my side. I enjoyed being in the tub, the children were all circulating coming in and out and anticipating Remy’s birth. All of my children were present except my 2nd Nathan. He was working and was missed but I knew his love and prayers were with us. So here are the kids present, Joseph, Daniel, Therese, Rosemary, Matthew, Natalie, Sean, Adam and Genevieve. Around 5pm I got out of the tub as no change occurred. I walked to the other side and it was amazing. I had kids in every room. Rose and Natalie in the Milk Spot, some of the boys in Dragonfly playing video games and watching movies. Other kids just roaming or playing on the computer. I felt the birth pool and it felt great. I had to get in and it was amazing. Melissa, Kashuna and now Jacqueline (she had arrived) were warming water to heat it up and I listened to my playlist and floated and moved about. Nichelle or Diane would read to me from my favorite book, “Spiritual Legacy of Sister Mary of the Holy Trinity.” It was amazing. Some intense contractions would come so I would move my body, cry tears of thanks and continue to cope. This was definitely different now as in different I normally would have had the baby by now.

I got out of the birth pool after about an hour and a half and sat on the toilet. Lots of loose stool but no bearing down. I made my way back to Peach for more rest and intimacy. It was now maybe 7ish/7:30pm. I rested for one or two contractions on the bed but it was too intense. I couldn’t stay on the bed. I got up and stood forward leaning on the bed moving my hips for a couple and wow, was it just cause I am out of the tub or are these really hurting BAD! Believe me I have had a lot of babies, all natural, all out of hospital but this hurt BAD. I got back into Peach’s tub. From here I zoned out. You always zone out at some point during natural childbirth but I had to move inward and deep this time. I felt extreme intense rays of heated pain in my back. I had to have the jets on with the forceful water isolated or aimed at my back. I had to move, breathe and focus on My Savior for strength. I felt good, I wasn’t tired I had energy I would do it for my baby, I had to do it for my baby. It was very powerful. Jacqueline stayed by the side of the tub. Les was on the toilet sitting and watching trying to anticipate my needs. Internally I had conversations with Jesus and His Holy Immaculate Mother. Trying to use this pain to for the salvation of souls, please God give me strength. Michelle was now present. Their silent presence was strong. Sips of water, ice, cool cloth and turning the jets on/off for every powerfully strong contraction was so appreciated. It was getting harder now to cope and I continued to converse with Jesus, as He is truly my best friend, and I told him I understand I’m a sinner, but Jesus I don’t know how much more I can take. Please help me. Blessed Mother, help me. In my head I knew I had to flip over on my hands and knees. I knew it was going to be extremely intense, and I wouldn’t have the jet hitting my back. I had Les turn on the shower massager so he could have it ready to hit my back as soon as the contraction hit. Bam it came. I sensed Remy needed this position if I could do it, cope like this, for at least one it might help. I did it. And I moved and the shower massage hitting my back helped and I rocked and then it went away. Another one came, not quite as intense, and I was still okay. Then I had a weird vision, and simultaneously my water broke. The vision was of Remy’s sac, shaped like an eye and it split open. This was 10:10 pm. Michelle or Jaqueline went to tell Nichelle and Diane that my water broke. Then I wasn’t sure what to do. I waited for the next contraction to feel what I felt. My body didn’t bear down so I waited, as I still wanted the jet aimed at my back if I wasn’t bearing down. Then the next one came and I felt he was going to come, so I coped. I then decided to get out of the tub, knowing he was going to come out and I had to get through it and he would be here. Everyone gathered for Remy. I got into the sling, and Remy began to come. He didn’t come out as easy as the others. It definitely hurt really bad and took longer. His head coming out was so intense, nothing like I’d ever felt before and at the end the sling allowed my body to go lower to let him out. Remy birthed into my Les’ hands and he was so perfect. Les handed me Remy. I sat down on the stool, I wiped him off and wheeled myself to the bed. I climbed into the bed so thankful, so surrounded by love. I am strong, God gave me the strength, Remy is strong, and so beautiful. The love I felt was truly a gift. My husband, my children, Nichelle, Diane, Michelle, Jacqueline, Melissa, Sommer, Kashuna, Rochelle, Val in spirit, it was amazing and magical.

Remy was 9lbs 10oz that is a pound bigger than my prior babies with a 15 inch head and 22 inches long. I’ve never had a baby this big before, so I imagine that contributed to the intensity of the experience. But I am so thankful, he is big, strong, and healthy. God is good to me.

Words cannot express the love bestowed upon me from Nichelle. She carried the burden that I entrusted her with my care. I know it was not easy for her and she loves me so and it was so much to ask. I needed her so much throughout my pregnancy. I needed her there for me, for Remy for my family. Thank you my dearest friend after Jesus and my husband. You took such amazing care of me. I love you.

Diane is such a gift of love, peace and priceless beyond measure. She touched my life in so many ways. Her care and touch nurtured me through my pregnancy and birth. Her teas nourished us, her placenta crafting, smoothie and capsules continue to strengthen my body. Her words of support and wisdom guided. I love you.

My son Daniel shared he had never heard me like that before during any of my births. He said he was on his knees praying, but when he heard me say “Alright Jesus” he knew the baby would come soon.

I asked Les if while I was laboring it looked like it was different, if the labor looked harder than the others and he said” oh yes” he felt so bad he wished he could have helped me more. This man cooked me four meals a day every day. He took such amazing care of us. I love him.

I am truly blessed.

- Blossoms own - Mary Langlois

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